The term domestic violence is used to describe anything from emotional abuse and financial abuse to sexual abuse, intimidation, isolation and/or threats.
This can mean:
Putting the person down or making the victim feel bad about themselves
Playing mind-games and making the person feel they are stupid or going mad
Enforced isolation from family or friends
Trying to keep the person from getting a job
Making the person ask for money or withholding money
Actual or threatened physical harm
Making another person do sexual things against their will
Making someone afraid by smashing things and destroying things
Making or carrying out threats to hurt someone emotionally - threatening to take the children away or commit suicide.
If you are a parent experiencing domestic violence you may have many concerns over your children, including being:
Worried that you will be prevented from taking your children with you if you leave a violent relationship
Worried over contact your children may have with the abuser
Worried that you need financial or practical support to look after your children
Worried that your children have been traumatised by domestic violence and want extra support for them
Worried that your children may be abducted.
If you are affected by domestic violence, you are not alone. You can talk over these concerns, confidentially, with a number of specialist, sensitive services who won't judge you because of what you say or force you to make a decision you do not want to make.
It is important to remember that the abuse you have experienced, and your children have been exposed to, is not your fault.
To see detailed inter-agency procedures regarding Domestic Violence/Abuse - see Sandwell SCB Procedures: Domestic Abuse.
Listed below are some of the organisations that can support you:
Sandwell Organisation Against Domestic Abuse (SOADA)
SOADA is an organisation that supports women against domestic abuse. You can talk to them in confidence by ringing the 24 hour helpline number:
Tel: 0845 359 7525
Click here to visit the SOADA website
The Doli Project
Provides support to anyone who is affected by a forced marriage.
Tel: 0845 658 1057
National Domestic Violence Helpline 24 hour freephone
Tel: 0808 2000 247
Click here to visit the website for 24 Hour National Domestic Violence Helpline
The Survivor's Handbook
Provides practical support and information for women experiencing domestic violence, with simple guidance on every aspect of seeking support.
Click here to visit the Survivor's Handbook website
If you are a male victim of domestic violence, contact:
Victim Support Men's Helpline
Services available: Helpline for male victims of sexual and domestic abuse. Provides an opportunity to talk in confidence and anonymously
Tel: 0800 328 3623
Click here to visit the Victim support website
M.A.L.E: Mens Advice Line Enquiries
Confidential helpline for male victims of domestic violence whether in straight, gay, bi sexual or transgender relationship
Tel: 0808 801 0327
Click here to visit Men's Advice Line
For men and women in a gay, bisexual or transgender relationship, contact:
- West Midlands Lesbian and Gay Switchboard
Tel: 0845 2578255